I have a confession to make. I join my wife and watch the Bachelor TV show with her. It's how I can share in an activity she enjoys even though I really could give a rip about it. What amazes me is how the ladies are constantly back biting or stabbing eachother in the back as they search for Love. Back biting occurs in teh work place as well. You may have a bunch of rough and tough fabricators like I do but they still carry on at times like the ladies on the bachelor.
Back biting is generally toxic in the work place. How do you stop it? I shared a Valentines Day card with my team.
So what is Truth, Good and Useful all about? Valentines day is about friendship and loving thy neighbor. When you fell the urge to back bite and tell your buddy that "you heard a rumor about..." Stop and ask yourself three simple questions:
1. Is it true? If you think so then proceed to number 2. If not please stop the discussion.
2. Can any good come from it? Is there more good then bad? If there is then proceed to #3. If not please stop the discussion.
3. Is the information useful? If you pass all three filters then share your news. If you don't then mayb it is better for everyone to stop sharing your rumor or comment.
Look to your left and tell the person that "You have their back." Now look to the Right and tell that person that "you have their back." A little more truth, goodness and usefulness is a good remedy for petty toxic back biting.